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    BOYS, BOYS, BOYS.

    It’s been a while since I did an update on Luca and Harlow, and since they are growing up way too fast, I thought I would post one here and now. We are in such a busy season of our lives right now, and even though my eyes are tired and my brain is foggy, I know one day I will look back on this chapter and miss it dearly. I don’t think I’ve yet mentioned it on the blog, but I’ve been working two days a week as a waitress at a breakfast/lunch spot a bit further down south. I chose to go back to work to help bring in extra income and to take some of the financial weight off of Miles’ shoulders.  I waited tables all through college, and I knew if I was only going to be able to work twice a week, that would be the only job that would bring in a substantial cashflow, and at the same time allow me a flexible schedule with the kiddos. Basically, the job had to be worth my time. It hasn’t been too hard of an adjustment. I’ve been in this new routine since May, and I’ve seen how it has helped our family tremendously. I love being able to contribute monetarily for my family although I do still long for the day I can stop pouring other people’s coffee, and be back at home with L + H. There is no undignified work though, and I am no better than the career of waitressing, I am a waitress, after all. I always remind myself why I do what I do, and in this moment in time, I do what I do for them. I don’t know how I got so lucky to be their mama, but gosh I am so grateful I am. So onto much more exciting and important things, Lu and Harlow!

    Luca Lennox 4 years 2 months— Wow, is this a fun age. Luca is becoming his own person more and more everyday, and his individuality is beaming through. I have really been working towards harvesting that, and trying my best not to influence it too much with my own wants and aspirations for him. The conversations we have are some of my favorite. He’s more observant than anyone I know, and loves so darn hard. Lu also loves to dance, probably more than anything else. His favorite songs are ’24K Magic’ and ‘Uptown Funk’ by Bruno Mars. Also a close runner up is ‘Believer’ by Imagine Dragons. He’s had the dance moves going ever since his little ears first heard a song, and he shows no signs of slowing down anytime soon. I wish I could say he got his moves from his dad and I, but I’m pretty sure this is an inherent talent. He calls the splits the “squants” which is absolutely hysterical when you say it out loud.  He really enjoys going to preschool, and comes home singing about the colors in Spanish everyday. He is still off the charts in height + size for his age, in fact, when I carry him from the car while he’s sleeping, it looks pretty ridiculous as his legs hang far down below my knees. A few years more, and I’m certain he’ll outgrow me. He’s a sensitive soul with a really big heart. Loves being a big brother, wants to eventually try out for America’s Got Talent, born with the gift of gab, and has a laugh identical to the grade school Grinch (in the Jim Carey version)…Oh Martha!, Oh Christmas!

    Harlow Rue 1 year 5 months–Lives off pizza or anything pizza is made of. I’ve found him eating candle wicks more times than I’d like to admit, which is odd because he always makes the same disgusted face when he puts it in his mouth, he’s yet to learn his lesson. Harlow used to love being held, but he has newfound independence and now wants to walk. by himself. everywhere. He’s so feisty, throws the most dramatic tantrums, and can cry on cue. He’s also so stubborn, and will not let up until he gets some version of his way. Also a really tough baby, and has busted his lip three times now from either jumping off of furniture or wresting with his big brother. He calls everyone “Daaaa,” except Miles and Luca, they are Dada and Lala, respectively. Har, unlike Luca, is on the average spectrum for height and weight, although he looks so tiny to us as we are only used to having a baby who is large and in charge. He makes really funny facial expressions, and is babbling so much these days. He says ‘yes,’ ‘please,’ ‘owie,’ ‘hi,’ and shakes his head for ‘no.” The rest is hard to decode, but if he senses we aren’t quite understanding, he’ll just point or show us what we’re missing. Loves Thomas the Train and alll the train figurines and tracks. He mimics everything Luca does, has long black eyelashes, and the gap between his two front teeth has officially closed, which I’m actually really bummed about!, gives lip kisses and hugs, and is the best thing to happen to Luca, Miles, and myself.

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    STILL NURSING, ALWAYS MOTHERING.

    Location: THE STRUGGLE BUS STATION

    Let me start by prefacing this post by saying I feel extremely fortunate this time around to have been able to breastfeed Harlow. If you have been following along with us, you know I wasn’t able to breastfeed Luca, and I was comfortable with my decision at that time, and am still thrilled with that decision now, and hence moving forward. I think every mama is doing her very best to feed her babies however that might be, so please read this post as merely circumstantial, and not as me whining about my blessings, I know them well and count them every day.

    Okay, so now that I’ve said what I needed to say, Harlow is just about 16 and a half months and we are still nursing. He doesn’t have any particular or definitive breastfeeding schedule, but rather just nurses on demand. My goal was to make it 6 months, and well, while I planned to stop at a year, it just goes to show you how nothing can really be “planned” with children. I know how normal and natural this is, and I have zero qualms about that, it’s more so the sleep aspect of this journey. Harlow doesn’t sleep through the night. He wakes once or twice a night to nurse himself back to sleep. For me, this is extremely difficult. I feel overtired and overwhelmed. We recently tried to begin sleeping him in his crib using the Ferber method. This has been working well as for going to bed, but he wakes up at 1 a.m. crying. I have a hard time letting him cry it out because I worry it will wake up Luca and Miles, but I also want him to learn to self soothe. So many dilemmas, just one mama here. Read more

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    FIRST DAY OF PRE-K

    Location: Preschool

    We woke up bright and early this morning with excitement for Lu’s first day of Preschool. He’s been in small care programs since he was about 2, mainly to stimulate his social development, but this was his very first day of actual school. It wasn’t too emotional for him, since he doesn’t have much attachment anxiety in regards to school. Don’t get me wrong, he cried and cried when we first started him in daycare, but after enduring those first two weeks, it was one of the best decisions we ever made. Now, he looks forward to making new friends and learning from new teachers. Once August hit, Summer had him pretty antsy to start back up again. We all kinda thrive on a routine over here. Read more

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    HARLOW’S FIRST BIRTHDAY PUPPY PARTY

    Location: Lido Isle, Newport Beach

    A puppy party was thrown for our puppy babe. We have said since he was born, if Harlow has lived other lives he was definitely a dog at some point! Don’t take it the wrong way, I say this very lovingly! It’s just so adorable to watch him. I’ll hold snacks out in my hand for him to come grab, and instead he’ll just go right in with this mouth until my hand is licked clean, he’s very territorial, and loves laying on his back being smothered with love & belly rubs. I don’t really know how to explain it, other than you’d have to see it to believe me! Anyhow, we decided on a puppy theme, and after having a ginormous party for Luca’s first birthday, I learned to adhere to what feels good and right for our family, and big parties just aren’t that. We’re all about the intimate vibes and small gatherings–so much less stress, and so fewer details to worry about. Read more

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    EATING CLEAN WITH RAISED REAL

    Location: the kitchen

    A few months ago I was venting to Miles about how I wished there was a deliverable “homemade” baby food service. I have home made all of my babies’ food from scratch since they started on solids. The primary reason for making all my own baby food was in trying to fill a big void in the industry for healthy, nutritious, affordable baby food options, especially for vegetarians like ourselves. I was only able to find one company that didn’t use preservatives, but literally cost so much money, it wasn’t ever an option for us.  So when Raised Real reached out to us a while back and asked if we’d like to partner together, it made perfect sense! Read more

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    JUST TWO.

    Location: IN MY HEART

    After having Luca, I wasn’t sure I would have any other children. My pregnancy with him was tumultuous, put my health in serious danger, and it took me months to recover postpartum. An experience like that definitely makes you question why you would ever gamble having to go through such a life altering hardship again…Prefacing, I was young, I found myself pregnant unexpectedly, I wasn’t married, and I didn’t know how to feel. I didn’t feel ready (side note: I now know from experience you never feel ready even when it’s “right” & what you want). Until you are sitting in a bathroom, anticipating the results of a pee saturated stick sitting there like a mystical crystal ball to determine your future, quite literally, that’s when it all becomes real. Read more

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